#HeyIt'sOkay ..... to watch porn

… even if you’re an ardent feminist! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Porn is Porn. As long as you aren’t taking it on face value and assuming that is what your sex life should be like, that is how you should look, those are the things you should do etc. then go ahead and in the words of Lumiere – be our guest.

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Porn can be useful, especially if your sex education classes leave a little to be desired, books are boring and you don’t have older siblings. I'm not saying porn is a good sex education - hell no! However porn can show you what stuff looks like, where stuff goes, what comes out of where. Again there’s no one size fits all (Haha) but as long as you realise that, then it can be informative. It can help you decide what you like the look of, what makes you shudder, who you’re interested in. Used with caution, it can suggest new things for you to try sexually; different positions, toys, scenarios. You can watch it with your partner to get you in the mood. You can watch it alone to get yourself off quicker. See, it can be fun, very fun, so don’t feel bad. Don’t self flagellate because you feel bad for doing something that basically everyone does. You know you and you know when it could be becoming a problem and/or affecting your health but most of us are managing successfully to juggle life and porn.

Okay, okay, there are some very blurred lines in there and many counter arguments for what I’m saying. There are obviously gradients as to what porn it is okay to watch. I’m talking consensual adults, not performing anything illegal. (Ignoring the stupid UK porn bans.) You need to use your own moral judgement and compass for this one. So yes you might be fuelling a (less and less so) misogynistic industry by watching porn but guess what? It’s already out there, reclaim it if you feel it belongs to old men in raincoats. If you feel a bit morally wrong watching certain types of porn created by men for men then there are more and more female friendly porn sites popping up all over the place and gender equal porn where emphasis is put on mutual partner pleasure.

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I would add to this, make sure you're watching ethically produced porn - i.e. actors have been paid a fair and equal wage and aren't being exploited by their producers or the industry.

So ultimately, if you are watching legal, ethical porn responsibly, with a clear head, accepting it as adult entertainment and not as an inspirational video or a sex tip guide then hey, it’s okay to watch porn.

What are your thoughts? Can you recommend any sites?

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14 October, 2015 1 tags (show)

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Saint1ess

Saint1ess said:

Agree with all of this! There are a lot of people in the sex blogging industry who learnt about sex from books and good old fashioned experience quite young. I am not one of those I learnt from watching porn to as you say get some context and see what goes where. Then tried it out, and I watch it at 2 times a week but it depends on how drained my imagination is that week lol.

With regards to recommendations it is difficult because I actually like the what people call ‘traditional’ porn and most feminist porn is not my style. TrenchcoatX is a good one, Make Love Not Porn, Kink.com all three of those look after their stars and staff and they are 3 of my favourites. Looking forward to seeing other people’s recommendations!

Anna @ PeachyKeen

Anna @ PeachyKeen said:

Sorry for the delay, I was off researching! It’s a tough job ;-) TrenchcoatX is a new one to me so thanks for the recommendation.

I know what you mean about some porn for women, it can lose that kink factor! Thanks for your comment.

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